- I have noticed that the more relaxed I am, the closer I approach truth and happiness. It is common for the modern man to pursue trivial goals that cannot lead to bliss. Relaxation can tremendously help someone distinguish between what truly matters and what is not so important in life. If you are absorbed in the rat race, you can easily misinterpret reality and regard unimportant matters as highly important for your well-being, happiness, and personal development. You might believe, for example, that this particular car or this particular woman should be your priority in life and that when you manage to buy the car or have this woman, then you will be happy. Reality will easily disappoint such futile hopes. Hence, it is easily understood that there is no reason to compete with other people in fields that are of secondary importance to you.
Serenity is a health requirement. It is a well-known fact that relaxing can help you protect your heart and that stress is linked to high blood pressure and other serious cardiovascular problems that could even lead to heart attacks. Moreover, relaxed people have fewer possibilities of dying of a stroke, and the ability to keep a calm mind can protect you from depression. This is of paramount importance since the prolonged presence of the stress hormone, cortisol, can reduce levels of serotonin and dopamine, which are associated with motivation and happiness.
- It is beneficial for someone to adopt the attitude that almost everything can be achieved if he or she is blissful. This should not be taken literally, of course, since it is obvious that several conditions must be met in order to achieve one’s goals. Nevertheless, it is true that when you are relaxed and feel something stable inside, your ability to make better decisions increases. Stress can severely cloud our judgment, especially when we have to make decisions within a short period of time. It is often more important to avoid negative thinking and remain calm than to solve a problem or achieve a goal.
- Live in the here and now. Although this phrase has been enormously misused by a lot of New Age enthusiasts around the world, it is not easily disputable that the present moment is all that we have. We can live neither in the past nor in the future. This is the limitation of our physiology. For this reason, it is wise and at the same time difficult to try to work with what we have in the present moment. People who live every moment of their life tend to be more relaxed and it is easier for them to cope with stressful situations. We should try to concentrate on whatever activity we undertake at any given moment and understand that one of the primary goals of every activity is to enjoy it. However, take into consideration that enjoyment is by no means the only reason for doing something. This is a notion that confuses many people in modern societies that encourage instant gratification and the belief that anyone deserves everything. Having said that, it should also be mentioned that our thoughts should not be considered an annoyance. If we want to correct something, then it is better to talk softly to ourselves. When you feel overwhelmed by stressful thoughts, bring softly and gently your mind back to the present moment instead of yelling at yourself.
- It is wise to focus on what we truly want, rather than on what other people want us to focus on. Even if the people around you are negative or delusional, continue to remain relaxed and happy. Try to stay unaffected by other people’s thoughts. I have to highlight that I am not talking only about negativity here. Being delusional can have the same and sometimes a greater impact on someone. Moreover, nowadays many people try to fight negativity by being delusional themselves. This is not to be encouraged, of course, since it cannot help someone in the long term.
